October 2003 Mentoring Newsletter
How To Mentor Character Into Others
by Dr. Waylon B. Moore
Teacher and Mentor, Dr. Howard Hendricks talked about the necessity for
good mentors this way: The greatest crisis today is the crisis in
leadership. And the greatest crisis in leadership is the crisis of
character. Character is the result of four things:
Do you have a mentor, a mentoree?
The choices you make;
The values you embrace;
The crises you experience;
The mentor you choose.
I can't forget the character impacting mentoring I've seen overseas. In an
internet letter I read, These are the times of tall men, and short
character. But not everywhere! I've seen tall character missionaries
mentoring others. In Zambia, I traveled with a missionary driving to a village
to witness; in the truck seat with him was a new" missionary.
What an experience I had, listening, watching, seeing the modeling of the
veteran as he introduced the new guy to a village chief, and modeled how to
visit and greet people in each mud house. Later he explained customs affecting
cultural values and character assessments the tribe made about accepting a
non-tribal person. All week I watched primal mentoring. The air was thickened
those days in the bush by questions and discussions on ministry, prayer, and
sharing. In the USA I've seen the lasting fruit of pastors with their mentored
teams of changed men living holy lives of character.
What can influence positively and deeply a commitment to godly character in us
and to encourage others to whom we minister? There are two things. First, we
must get the Word of God into hearts, and secondly, we have to see it modeled,
lived out in lives. John describes meeting the greatest mentor:
And the Word became flesh, and dwelt among us, and we beheld his glory. .
Then John hands us a five-word Polaroid photo of Jesus'
. . . full of grace and truth
(John 1:14). The writer, John, vividly remembers in his old age the impact of
seeing Scripture with legs Jesus in action, teaching,
caring, standing strong! Jesus tenting, dwelling among them. He writes with
freshness and wonder:
From the very first day, we were there, taking it all in we heard
it with our own ears, saw it with our own eyes, verified it with our own hands.
The Word of Life appeared right before our eyes; we saw it happen! And now
we're telling you in most sober prose that what we witnessed was, incredibly,
this: The infinite Life of God himself took shape before us
(1 John 1:1-2, The Message). Nothing teaches Christ's character
faster than seeing it lived out. When the Bible we are learning is fleshed out
by parents and other mentors in daily life, it marks us unforgettable.
John summarizes two life qualities of Jesus that remained glued to his
heart all those decades. Jesus was
full of grace and truth.
What a difficult combination! Jesus was wonderful to be with. He was always
sensitive, loving, attentive, thoughtful, forgiving, focused on you.
Full of grace. But Jesus was also full of truth. His yes was total.
His no was resolute. His pronouncements were final and eternal.
was no blending error with truth. Truth is pure, demanding, convicting.
Some people are gracious, but are flabby and too bending. Others are so
legalistic, so iron-fisted and unbending, they hurt us. Grace and truth
are hard to mix. Speaking the truth, in love is supernatural. These
radically different character qualities John could not forget. They are
living, combined, balanced perfectly in one man: Christ Jesus!
Character is the fruit of abiding in Him, allowing Christ Jesus to
live His life in you, through you. There are key Bible passages that,
as they soak into our hearts, the Holy Spirit uses to bring growth and
change into Christlikeness. We get convicted about our attitudes, our
reactions, and our words. And character solidifies. Consider using
these in a sermon series, in your Bible study group, with your family,
and in training those whom you mentor.
Seven Character-sharpening Tools
As a young couple with three children, Clemmie and I found Proverbs a
fascinating book to use in child-rearing. Among the 50 different topical
categories in Proverbs, we studied nine character areas with our kids. We
discovered positive and negative qualities, and their consequences. Some of
these contrasts are found in a single verse. We found other verses that give a
thought which is double-complete where the second line agrees or
underscores the first line. There are many comparative proverbs in which
then sometimes begins the second line. Using a large concordance,
look up the references to each key word or topic, and then read these nuggets
of gold cross references. Focus on one word-idea for a week. Discuss how to
discover the fool, the wise in your life. Share ideas
on how to apply a verse to our lives. Look up these words to start:
wise/wisdom contrasted with the fool; the
heart; the tongue; honest/lying,
The 10 Commandments
Exodus 20:1-17. The first five commands deal with our relationship with
God; the other five emphasize essential earthly relationships. Nine of these
ten are commanded in the New Testament, too. We need to memorize these in
order and review them regularly. They strike at the heart of the Law, and under
gird the stability of any nation, culture, and home.
The Sermon on the Mount
Matthew 5-7. One of the most humble millionaires I've met told about
starting a company during the 1930's Depression. He had been encouraged to
memorize the Sermon on the Mount. Quoting these verses daily changed his life
and business. Mr. Taylor quoted the verses while seeking application to his
life for over 30 years. Applying a single verse on dealing with an enemy (Luke
6:27, 28) revolutionized my life and application alertness. Verses on salt,
light, and obedience that brought conviction to my life years ago are still
alive and working in my heart today.
The Upper Room Discourse
John 14-17. One of the richest passages in the Bible, this section of
chapters reveals Christ's invasion into the life and work of every believer.
One core theology which is found here: Jesus introduces to us the Holy Spirit.
The Fruit of the Spirit Are Attitudes. Walk in the Spirit
Galatians 5:16-26. Attitude is everything with God, because our
attitudes expose the real heart of us. Our works alone cannot reveal what our
true motives and intentions are. Why you do what you do is more important than
that you do it!
Growth Steps to Fine-tune our Spiritual Life
2 Peter 1:4-7. The essential building blocks for your spiritual house
are unveiled in this text. Like swallowing a daily multi-vitamin to be healthy,
use this passage in your devotions. Meditate on one word in this list each day
for a week. Ask our Teacher, the Holy Spirit, to show you one truth to apply or
one character deficiency. Pray the verse into your life and memorize it. Ask
God to build that quality into your life and believe that He will! The power to
apply Scripture comes through our surrender to be controlled by the Holy Spirit
For children at three different grade levels, Character Builders is a terrific
set of booklets.
Their 48 character traits have priceless definitions followed by stories that
illustrate each trait. My wife loves these samples:
Listening with the eyes, ears, and
Patience without anger
Character Revealed by Contrast
In light of the need to be specific and sensitive about our character
growth, I've been encouraged and challenged to pray over a short list
that reveals the character of Christ. Alongside each positive
characteristic is a contrasting negative trait.
God Gives Us Models and Mentors
Accuracy vs. Carelessness
Alertness vs. Unawareness
Attentiveness vs. Resentment
Boldness vs. Fearfulness
Compassion vs. Indifference
Creativity vs. Underachievement
Decisiveness vs. Double-mindedness
Diligence vs. Slothfulness
Faith vs. Presumption
Forgiveness vs. Rejection
Joyfulness vs. Frustration
Self-control vs. Self-gratification
Truthfulness vs. Deception
Sometimes good mentors and character models are rare in our lives. There are
available, however, 2900 names of different people in the Bible. God recorded
the struggles and strengths of multiple persons these biographies are
meant for our observation and meditation. These model walking in truth, running
from evil, or the terrible, tragic consequences of sin. Our entertainment
culture rarely teaches the sure, terrible judgment that comes to us and to
others as well from breaking God's laws. It is essential that we teach and
testify to the consequences of our words and actions, as we train our children
and mentor others.
Some Bible biographies are summarized in a sentence. Others fill paragraphs or
chapters. Begin your study with shorter biographies such as Hannah, Asa,
Timothy and Barnabas. List any good you see that they did. Then list bad
decisions they made. Meditate on why. Next relate their life
actions and the consequences to God. What lessons did you specifically learn?
Where will you change your life because of this study? Four Old Testament
people flavor many verses in the New Testament: Abraham, Moses, David, and
Elijah. They are the most important to study, but require a lengthier analysis.
The clay of each of these lives will lead us closer to the heart of
God and His character.
1 Message at Xenos Discipleship Conference, Columbus, Ohio, July 17, 2003.
2 Ron and Rebekah Coriell, Fleming H. Revel by Assoc. of Chr. Schools
International, Box 4097, Whittier, CA 90607.
3 Notes from Institute in Basic Youth Conflicts, Bill Gothard, Tampa, Florida,
FAMILY NEWS AND PRAYER NEEDS
Clemmie and Waylon are rejoicing in the Lord for His abounding grace.
enjoys doing regular water aerobic exercises at the same gym
where Waylon walks on the treadmill. Clemmie has a marvelous gift for
recalling everything, so is perfect as our office manager, keeping up
with address changes from all over the world for our newsletter. She was
also an amazing assistant in preparations for our August 24-Hour
Mentoring Workshop in Tampa. There we had attendees from six states and
Dr. Bill Steeger, Bruce Moore, Charles Hartwig and
others challenged the conferees with enthusiasm and the Lord worked
wonderfully. It was a great joy to Waylon to teach doctoral students for
a week on Mentoring at Midwestern Seminary in Kansas City. Pray for
as he is pastor and church-planter of a new mission just north of
the Tampa area. CrossPointe Church has some 50 pioneer attendees
including his parents. This month we are offering leadership training
workshops in our new rented facilities to prepare for further growth.
saw fruit as she and the staff took a mission team of German students to
Hungary last month to begin a new campus ministry in Györ. Pray for
staffers Julie B. and Anja G. who are ministering with her full-time now.
PARTNERS in the HARVEST: Missions Unlimited Update
by Waylon Moore
You have blessed us and we say thank-you! For years we have been sending
our Mentoring Newsletter for your encouragement, challenge and prayer.
Again and again we delight to hear from many about how the Lord brought
home a teaching and how this person applied it in his life or ministry.
The Lord has graced us! He has allowed us to minister to leadership all
over the world. Last year we were in five different nations teaching
missionaries or national leadership. It never gets old, and I've been
privileged to share God's riches to missionaries or pastors in 100
nations. Early next year I'll be with hundreds of university students
and teaching Masters' level seminary students on mentoring. We get
letters and email from all over the world where the newsletter, one of
my books, or something I've written is impacting lives, all to His
glory (and my amazement.)
We covet your continued support! We haven't mentioned our financial
needs for a long time. We need your help now, to stand with us in
prayer, crying out to God that we equip laborers for His harvest, and
for monthly support in these areas:
Income for travel and ministry
overseas in multiple nations.
Income to produce video conferences
where hundreds of pastors and laymen in multiple cities, without
traveling outside their city, can learn, and ask questions too, to
speakers in another location about mentoring and evangelism.
major drops in Seminary income, they can't afford to offer some needed
courses (including Mentoring). We need income to fund these Mentoring
classes for hungry Masters and Doctoral level Seminary students for three
New laborers for the harvest is our goal, through
mentoring/discipling. Nothing works in third-world nations where the
Gospel is forbidden like one-with-one mentoring. Partner with us these
next months as we teach and travel. New invitations are coming in now
Recently I spoke six times at a giant church conference where the multiple
staff and all leaders are required to read and apply the principles in
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Many email us about the impact of Living God's Word in their lives and
groups across America! Would you pray about giving monthly, regularly to
this worldwide ministry through 2004, beginning now? May He multiply
your life (Deuteronomy 1:11)!
Thank you for praying/partnering with us.
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encouragement. There are dozens of articles on leadership, spiritual
growth and mentoring. www.mentoring-disciples.org